Depression

[Kreekakon]

Stop trying to blame yourself. Your living the narrative that your parents used because it worked for them. If you were thinking ridiculously and they knew that, why didn't they try to help you?

I understand you may have just felt stressed out, but if your feelings reach a point of suicidal thoughts, that says to me there was more than just the concept of grades giving you anxiety.

Oh dang, I have to stop forgetting to mention certain details...

Like I said, I should've made it clear earlier that my case was NOT as severe as many other people were. It was mainly upset feelings mixed with occasional suicidal thinkings that ended in an instant. Usually they occurred whenever got got my grades back on my larger exams, and evaporated a while later only to re-ignite the next time I got grades.

My parents probably would've gladly helped me if they knew what I was thinking, but I always kept it to myself. They never knew a thing. Who knows? Perhaps even back then I sub-consciously knew that what I was thinking was trivial, and it wasn't worth burdening other people with my troubles.

Again, this is my own case, which by now largely has little to nothing to do with the larger scale of things at hand right now.

Dude...

I'm not "over it", I'm still suffering from depression and anxiety, and I'm nearly 30. I'm unemployable as a result of it. It's likely that I'll never be rid of it. My not being dead isn't evidence of anything except I didn't die.

Okay, I genuinely apologize for my insensitive comment on that part. I'm really sorry for having made that assumption.

If someone is feeling so depressed that they attempt or contemplate suicide - whether it's a "phase" or not - is irrelevant to how dangerous it is to ignore or downplay it. A dead kid isn't any less dead because they weren't "properly" depressed at the time.

Yes, I realize this, hence later in my post earlier I say that even though it may very well be a "phase", it is not wise to ignore it, and still should be dealt with accordingly. My main point was just to say that it likely is a phase people go through, but not that it should be ignored.

It's great that you got through it and you were able to move on, but it's not something a person can simply will to happen. Different people are affected in different ways. If someone posts on a message board that they're having trouble with depression and need advice, it's probably not because they've got the Monday morning blues.

Yeah those were just my own personal experiences, and I understand that not everyone can have it go past them that easily.

What does calling it "a phase" accomplish? It pre-supposes that it is a phase, and that no further investigation is necessary. It makes the person experiencing it feel stupid, weak, embarrassed and ashamed for not overcoming it or for feeling overwhelmed by it. It's counter-productive, at best.

Teenagers are known to be mopers, and one in four people are known to suffer from a mental illness at some point in their lives. It's not worth the risk to even have a category labelled "just a phase" when mental illness and suicide is such a major problem.

My post doesn't really imply anything further about how people should get over it easier, because it just is a phase. Like I said earlier in this post, I still acknowledge that it is often a problem, and definitely should be dealt with accordingly.

All I was saying was that it very well likely is a "phase". I am not implying anything further beyond the name, nor am I implying that it should be treated as a trivial manner (Maybe I did somewhat with that assumption with your case so sorry again for that...). Even as such a thing I completely agree that I should be taken seriously, and the person in question should be helped depending on their own situation.