Sexuality

[Statyk]

Spoiler below!

Even though you aren't gay, there are some things that I think you'll be able to understand, though. I am about to argue about a point that you may or may not have brought up earlier. It is almost midnight and I just completed an enduring round of cardio, so I don't really feel like checking. Nevertheless, this should be useful.

You mentioned how sexuality is likely a learned trait, because we develop sexual feelings over time; we aren't born willing to fuck. But regardless of sexual preference, this happens because we have a natural development system programmed to release all sorts of hormones very gradually as we near certain ages or other milestones. Teenagers and young adults tend to pay more attention to sex, and thus their sexual orientation, because they're finally getting introduced to it wholesale.

It took me till eleven or twelve years of age to actually realize that I like boys, but the kicker is that, now that my mind is clear enough to remember, my brain had hinted that at me for quite some time before then. I had little guy crushes and, well, a few special experiences that were pretty kinky in retrospect. I just thought that I liked girls because I was told to like girls, and nothing in my body screamed contrariwise yet.

Similarly, you probably grew into really liking girls*, as did most other people, not because it was a gradual process, but because you just weren't all that capable of really liking girls until you reached puberty. Before puberty, children tend to have crushes based on just barely sexual feelings and whatever they are told is normal (most likely, heterosexuality).
* or liking boys if you are a girl

Also, if sexuality was a learned trait, I would probably have been able to turn myself straight by now. As soon as I had figured out that I was gay, I got scared shitless, and I did everything I could to guilt trip myself into acting like I was attracted to girls for a few years. I was more or less told that I liked girls as soon as I met girls my age, too. I can't really think of an outside source that influenced me to like boys. I just liked boys and figured that there's nothing I could do (or really had to do) to change that.

Of course, I'm just speaking for the majority of homosexuals. Sexuality (and gender identity while we're at it) is unique for just about everybody. It's not Mendel's tall and short pea plants, I tell ya hwhat. Most everybody is born with an unalterable sexual makeup, but I wouldn't be surprised if one or two people could actually choose, or maybe someone who was bisexual grew to focus on one gender, or something like that. The possibilities are limitless!

First off, I'd like to thank you for a polite and educated response. Hearing this from (what I get from you saying this) a homosexual, this actually opens up my eyes a bit. If it was something you actually grew up with, and you were NOT exposed to homosexual actions to bring you up that way, then perhaps I was wrong half way. As for now, I believe not only are homosexuals born with it, but you can't tell me EVERY SINGLE ONE is born gay. Some had to have been brought up that way or figured it out on their own.

I appreciate the fair input and it's good to hear things from someone who lives it.